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True Story: You Can’t Have a Positive Life with a Negative Mind! Watch It!

I was looking for feelings/thoughts/emotions/validation during a certain time in my life when I came across a bunch of sad pathetic writings of my own. These writings just made me sad and overcome with grief for that broken woman I once was. Everyone was the same damn thing, I couldn’t see anything good on everyone;  now mind you it was over an extended period of time, but I only wrote about the negative, never the positive. I just wrote about the darkness that I let consume the molecules that make me Rahab.

What a shame that I could not see that there was positivity around me—love and caring—all that I needed to bring me back from the depression that had consumed me.

It led me to the subject of negativity/positivity. I was very depressed and no one knew it. I hid it, or maybe I just thought I hid it.  I searched for myself in others; I wasn’t there.

It took me being alone to find myself. Others were there to offer love, light, laughter, etc., but I just didn’t want it. I wanted to be in my dark shade. Depression is contagious and I was of a weak mind at the point in life, attempted suicide…. so many crawling negative vibes were all over me.

I soaked up the blue days around me and made them mine. I fed into the self-pity, self-loathing and clinginess. I was a mess! I honestly thought that it would never end and I would always be so unhappy with life that I would never again experience the joys I had once embraced.

And this led me into the thought of positive v/s negative mindset; Be careful how you speak throughout your day. It’s okay to complain, we all do it, but don’t let it consume you and don’t let it be a daily habit.

Our thoughts can drive us to unimaginable success or paralyze us in fear.  They can drown us in worry or flood us with happiness.  The reality is that most of our thoughts about ourselves on a daily basis are negative.  If we entertain or dwell on these thoughts for too long, our subconscious minds will begin to build and believe this case we have created against ourselves.  About why we can’t have our dream or become the person we would like to become.  About why we can’t find happiness or true love.  About why we can’t break an addiction or discover inner peace.

It’s true that in life, we attract what we constantly think about.  For us to live a positive, productive life, we must think positive, productive thoughts.  If you have been living in a cycle of negativity for a long time, it can feel like you have lost the power over your own thoughts, but that’s not the case.  It’s easy to fall into a reactionary mode, allowing life to just happen to you while giving away your power to create.  You must decide to take back control of your mind and with it, your life!  Take back control, direct our own steps with thoughts that will both support and encourage your happiness and growth.  You don’t have to live at the mercy of your negative thoughts any longer.

It’s important, however, to not be under the impression that you will be able to one day magically stop all negative thoughts.  Some negative thoughts will always be present, but that’s okay!  Even the most positive people among us still suffer from negative thoughts from time to time; the key is learning how to stop listening.

Practice the art of mindfulness and see your thoughts for exactly what they are, just a thought.  Choose to let the negative ones go, while dwelling and giving power only to those that will allow you to grow spiritually, mentally, and emotionally.  Consciously choose to immediately flip any negative thought into the alternative positive version of itself.  Repeat and dwell on that positive version for at least twice as long as you dwelled on its negative counterpart.  Practice these actions, and over time your negative thoughts will occupy less and less of your mental space and their positive alternatives will begin to take their place.

Remember, to have a positive life you don’t need to have 100% positive thoughts, you just need them to occupy at least 51%.  That’s achievable, right?  if you can’t measure the percentage try on every one negative thought add two positive words. REMEMBER You have control, even if it might not feel like it at times.  Your thoughts hold tremendous power, but you can choose which ones will have it.

Do any of these resonate with you? I would love to see your feedback in the comments below!