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5 Reason Why Crying At Work Is Okay.

We all know the workplace isn’t the best place to cry. But sometimes it just happens. Your anger or frustration boils over into tears. Or perhaps a co-worker bursts in and sobs at your desk.

Whether you’re on the giving or receiving end of unexpected waterworks, how do you handle this situation?

While 80 percent of surveyed men and 84 percent of surveyed women say they believe it is acceptable for women to cry in public, 66 percent of men and 78 percent of women say it is acceptable for men to do the same. Opinions between genders also differed slightly when it came to the proportion of men who believe that is it unacceptable. While only 12 percent of women believe it is unacceptable for men to shed tears out in the open, 21 percent of men say men should not cry in public.

Here are Few  reasons why you shouldn’t feel ashamed about it.

1. Crying Doesn’t Make You Weak

There’s an old line of thinking that posits that crying makes you seem less powerful. What is implied, of course, is that when you’re a woman, crying makes you less powerful (after all, no one claimed that after President Obama cried during a speech to his campaign staff in 2012, he had somehow become less president-y). MSNBC host Mika Brzezinski told The Huffington Post that the experience of crying at work made her feel that “when you cry, you give away power.”

But a 2011 study of crying in the workplace, which surveyed over 700 American workers at all different levels of their careers, found that not only did employees at every step on the career ladder cry at work, but that after they cried, most women judged themselves far more harshly than they judged crying coworkers.

2. The Right To Cry At Work Is A Feminist Issue

The idea that tears are always wrong in the workplace is an idea that specifically targets women — because women happen to have six times more prolactin (the hormone that induces tears) than men do, and are more likely to have been raised to believe that crying is an acceptable response to frustration or sadness than men. Lots of women, already nervous about being seen as competent in the “boy’s club” that is many workplaces, then get locked into a no-win face-off: suppress their tears and feel terrible, or let them out and feel like a failure.

3. Crying Won’t Hold You Back Professionally

Conventional wisdom advises that crying at work might hold back your career. Many people — including, surprisingly, many professional women — are invested in the idea that crying in the office in front of male colleagues will keep you from getting hired or promoted, and mark you as someone who can’t handle hard work.

But the facts just don’t bear this theory out. Many high-ranking professional women have reported crying on the job, and some have even reported that it improved their situations — one executive interviewed by Fortune noted that her tears of frustration during a drawn-out business discussion actually reminded her coworkers that they had lost sight of their original goal.

4. Your Tears Are Nothing To Apologize For

Almost everyone who cries at an unexpected moment in public apologizes — and this goes double for crying at work. Hell, Ann Curry apologized over and over again in the clip at the top of this article, when she broke down into tears while announcing her firing from Today live on the air.

5. Trying To Control It Takes Energy That Could Be Spent Elsewhere

We’re rarely in charge of when we cry. Crying is a biological function of our lacrimal glands and autonomic nervous system — our lacrimal glands are always producing liquid to keep our eyes lubricated, but when we’re really upset, we produce so much fluid that our lacrimal drainage system can’t keep up, and voila, tears. It’s up to you whether you spill them in front of your peers, or run out to that one loading dock that smells like hot dog water in order to cry alone, but once your cry reflex gets triggered, most of us are helpless to stop it.

You’re not the boss of your tears. Sometimes, you’re not even the boss of whether you stay or run after they start flowing — say, if you’re a lower-ranked employee who starts crying after getting dressed down by your boss during a meeting in their office. So don’t think you’re “making a scene” if you cry at work in front of others, and don’t feel guilty for the way it makes other people feel.

So the next time you have to cry at work, for the sake of your job, your sanity, and the overall well-being of humanity, just let it out. You’re no less of a badass for it — in fact, you’re rather brave. What is your thought, Comment Below.